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KARATE-CHOP YOUR FAILURE

Have you ever wondered WHY you fail?

I guess that the better question to ask would be – have you ever wondered why YOU fail, when other people who have similar skills and talents to yours always seem to succeed?

Do not beat yourself up about it any longer – it happens to all of us, sooner or later – the trick is to not allow that failure to continue to plague you long after you have learned the associated “hard lesson”…

Yes, I hear you – “easier said than done”, right? Well, stick with me to the end because I will shed some light on the WHY that lurks behind most failures, which could then lead you to determining (for yourself) how you can successfully move beyond them…

Have you ever heard of the “Pike Syndrome”?

I recently heard this story, myself, while listening to the “Go For No” audiobook – and it is quite telling…

Researchers placed a Pike and a bunch of Minnows into the same large fish tank, separating them with a clear glass divider – the Pike would charge the Minnows, only to bump its nose on the invisible glass divider – this went on for HOURS, until the Pike finally gave up…once the Pike had stopped ramming the glass divider, the researchers REMOVED it from the tank…

What do you think happened then?

SPOILER ALERT – the Minnows survived!

That’s right – the Pike continued to swimming circles on its own side of the tank, with dinner just a few inches from its snout…the Pike had “trapped” itself inside of its own imagined barriers because it had gotten tired of bumping its nose on the glass divider…

Another sad example of this phenomenon involves training elephants for the Circus – the trainer drives a large stake into the ground, in the middle of a practice performance circle…the trainer then ties one end of a thick rope to the stake and the other end to a harness that has been placed around a baby elephant…

The elephant continuously struggles to break free from the rope, but to no avail – no matter how hard he/she pulls, nor in which direction – the elephant cannot escape the circle…this “training” continues until the elephant finally ceases to struggle – inside its own mind, the elephant has realized that there can be no escape, so it simply gives up trying…

From that point on, a rope is no longer necessary – the elephant will not leave the circle under its own volition because of the imagined barrier of the rope…

Those same imagined barriers can be seen in many human beings, unfortunately – as you live your life, you will encounter various forms of negativity and/or rejection from both strangers and those whom you care about…

At some point – and that point will be different for each person, based on numerous factors (how you were raised, your associations with friends, family & acquaintances over the years, your abundance or lack of support from others in your goals and dreams, etc) – it can be all too easy for you to simply “give up”…

REJECTION associated with certain endeavors can then become your “imagined barrier” to whatever it is that you are trying to achieve, which can lead you to no longer want to try – you then become paralyzed by your own mind and/or limiting beliefs about yourself and your abilities…

It is sad, really – not that this phenomenon occurs – but that we allow it to CONTROL our thoughts and actions…sometimes right up until the day we die…

I have recently challenged myself to never again allow negativity and/or rejection to cloud my judgement – and I hereby pass along that same challenge to YOU because I know that you have that ability inside of you – it has been there since we were infants…

Do you remember NEVER taking the word “no” for an answer from your parents when you were a small child? If you do NOT remember that far back into your life – but you are a parent now – then you should currently be experiencing and/or have experienced (if they are already grown) this trait in your own children…am I right?

When we are children, we instinctively know the meaning of the phrase NEVER GIVE UP – it is only after years of accumulated experiences of both negativity and rejection from others that we begin to place imagined mental barriers ON OURSELVES…

I say that – here and now – we all karate-chop that s@#$, and get on with our Amazing Lives!!!

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